Adjusting to Limb Loss

Two women walking, one is using a cane.

Losing a limb can be a profound shock. Everyone reacts to loss in different ways. You may be feeling angry, frustrated, scared, sad, or lonely. These are very common feelings after limb loss. In fact, many people go through distinct stages of grieving. Only you know how you feel. But don’t hesitate to ask for the emotional support that you need. You don’t have to go through this time of adjustment alone.

Stages of grieving

Grief is a complex emotion. It is a normal reaction to any kind of loss. It may begin right away after limb loss. Or, you may not really feel grief until later in recovery. The process of grieving can be broken into five stages. They may happen in any order. You may feel one stage more strongly than others, or get “stuck” in a stage. Learn to recognize the stages of grieving:

  • Denial (“This can’t be happening to me.”)

  • Anger (“Why is this happening to me?”)

  • Bargaining (“I promise to be good if only I can have my old life back.”)

  • Depression (“I’ll never be normal or okay again.”)

  • Acceptance (“I’ll find a way to move on with my life.”)

Adjusting to a new body image

We all see ourselves a certain way. After limb loss, your self-image may be altered. Accepting the changes to your body will take time. Keep in mind that losing a limb doesn’t make you a less valuable person. As you go through your physical recovery, allow yourself emotional, mental, and spiritual recovery time, too. Take as much time as you need, but commit to accepting and caring for your body.

You’re not alone

Asking for help can be hard. But everyone needs support from time to time. Don’t let limb loss isolate you. Reach out. Ask for the support and assistance that you need. These people and organizations can support you:

  • Peer counselors. These are people living with amputation who are willing to share their own experiences. Talking with a person who’s been through an amputation can be a great help.

  • Family and friends. People who love and care for you really want to help. Tell them what you need and how you feel.

  • Psychologists or other therapists. Therapy can help you work through the adjustment process.

  • The Amputee Coalition. This nonprofit group provides resources and support. Find them online at

Notes for family and friends

While you can support your loved one’s recovery in many ways, emotional support is vital. Your family member will need understanding and patience. But don’t be afraid to encourage them to get back into a routine. Listen closely to what he or she tells you. Ask questions and voice concerns. Some sadness is normal, but watch for signs of depression. Contact a trained therapist if your loved one:

  • Feels overwhelming or unrelenting sadness.

  • Doesn’t find pleasure in anything.

  • Won’t accept the reality of limb loss.

  • Won’t touch his or her residual limb or get out of the wheelchair.

  • Won’t see or talk to friends or family.